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Permalink Reply by Christian Chick on June 24, 2008 at 6:39pm

I am trying to get to much healthier lifestyle and my sister has admitted that she has serious problems with supplements, juicing, etc. We are both pretty stubborn and our mother is a Thyroid canser survivor. Mom has talked with both of us about the power of natural remedies but it was a big deal for my sister to admit and own up to the hang up being HERS. Mom's cancer and my ongoing health issues this year have brought up alot of things for all of us. Just remember, get healthy for you and other peoples' discomfort is their issue for them to handle. Proud of you for doing the raw diet and yoga--hope to be there in next month.

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Permalink Reply by Maria on June 24, 2008 at 8:35pm

I just askd this question recently myself. Everyone gave me some fabulous support and words of wisdom. I'm new here as well. Maybe you can search for it?

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Permalink Reply by Fiona on June 24, 2008 at 10:32pm

Oh I surely will thanks for the info sorry i didn't see that sooner

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Permalink Reply by Mary50 on June 24, 2008 at 10:49pm

As soon as I say I am changing my food and losing wt. All of the sudden people start bringing me SAD food. These are usually people who love me and I love them. Problem is I have gotten more support by saying nothing and just changing. In this way I can witness to them in a loving way by the way my body is better.

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Permalink Reply by Alysha on June 25, 2008 at 12:06am

Hi Fiona! I have a similar experience and it seems that when you change your diet, especially if it's very noticably different from what everyone else eats, people either complain or get annoyed about it. I find it's from a lack of understanding of why you're doing it. However, even after you do explain, I find that some people still think that you're going to change just because they're around or coming over for dinner. That's the real test I find - I've just held strong and kept at it and people will soon just accept the fact that you don't eat what they do. They become much more supportive over time. Trust me, it'll get easier! xo

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Permalink Reply by bueller on June 25, 2008 at 1:22am

Hi Fiona:
This is a totally natural feeling you are having. Unfortunately the majority of the population doesn't understand. The best thing I have found is to reply by directing people to books or websites for information and not explaining myself or my decisions. If people bring me food I can't eat I just smile, say thank you, and put it in the kitchen or somewhere for "later". Then I give it to my friends. I still get it all the time when I go to lunch with people. When they give me their opinion, usually about why meat is good for you, I just smile and say, "isn't that interesting" and change the subject. You will find lots of support here. Good for you for taking control of what so many others think is impossible. Congratulations. What a wonderful achievement!

Bueller

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Permalink Reply by Jerome on June 25, 2008 at 11:43am

Fiona,
Keep doing your thing. It ain't easy for us to change, and it ain't easy for others to accept our changes. Cancer seems to turn us into a Rorschach where others can project their own issues, including death and lifestyle. What a great position to be in. Congrats on the difficult changes you've made.

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Permalink Reply by Fiona on June 25, 2008 at 10:49pm

Thanks for the feedback I guess all u can do is keep going forward and hope eventually everyone will get that the new diet and that is a positive thing not a punishment because i am sick

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Permalink Reply by girlandcoconut (formerly known as lolabloom!) on June 25, 2008 at 10:57pm

Oh yes, I have definitely experienced A LOT of the same. I ditto what everyone said. Just always remember, it is about your health first and foremost. At first I used to get defensive at the things people would say or comment about or would get frustrated by their seemingly illogical reasoning for "their way." What I realized is that for me it was easier to just do and not talk about it and if asked, to provide a brief, educational type answer. And most importantly for me was to see their comments as a reflection of their ego and the fact that they hadn't yet learned any other way, they are just speaking what they know. Leading by example is really huge, people seem to have a more positive response when they see/hear about the positive effects, then they seem to do a 180 (not all, but some) and want to jump on board! So keep on keepin on, you're doing good for you and that's what's important! Hugs!

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