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About Me:: I live in SoCal, but I'm from Brooklyn, NY. My life went from a dream to a nightmare in 10 months and it's so hard for me to keep it together mentally and physically. 8/2007 my husband was the beginning of this nightmare by fighting with me, raising his voice and then not speaking to me for 3 weeks over something we disagreed about. The following month 9/2007 I lost my job of 8.5 yrs... and at the time I thought that was devastating. 10/2007 my foster daughter of 3 years moved out at the age of 18 while we were half way through her adoption. 1/2008 I had to have 3 foster children (that I had planned to adopt) moved to another home because of the drama in my home. 3/2008 I was so unhappy with my our marriage and I asked my husband for a divorce, in some small way I hoped that he would try to make it work but he didn't he just got worse. In June 2008 on my 42nd birthday I was diagnosed with breast cancer. From finding the lump to mastectomy was only 21 days (no time to process). Two days before my mastectomy my husband decided to tell me that he has a girlfriend. The day after my surgery he bothered me to sign some documents, when I refused and asked for some time to heal he moved out. 3 days after my mastectomy I received a call that I was hired for a job that I applied for, I was so happy but also nervouse since I started working there only 7 days after surgery in pain and trying to hide my new deformity. Now my soon to be ex-husband is doing his best to try to lure my daughter away from me, we adopopted her through foster care because we couldn't have children together. I have been her everything for the past 6 years (her whole life) I am willing to bet that he can count on one hand how many diapers he changed and now he is trying to fight me for custody saying that I am too sick to care for her. My chemo has not started yet because I still have to heal from my surgery plus I have to go for a few more tests. I am so afraid and even though I have many awesome friends and my parents have been amazing.... I feel so scared and alone. Everyone looks at me with such sorrow and it makes me sad. I want to be happy and get healthy and be a survivor but I feel that I have a long way to go.

Where do you live? (city, state, country): Anaheim Hills, CA - USA

Relationship Status:: Single

Favorite Quote:: Figure out what is important and forget about everything else

Favorite Book:: Harry Potter books, but after this cancer thing I am sure that will change

What's your personal mission statement?: I want to surround myself with positive people, I wish to watch my daughter grow up and be the awesome person that I know she is and I wish to fight this cancer.

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At 7:23am on July 24, 2008, Sweetlife said…: Hi Belinda!
It sounds like you have good reason to complain, so let it rip! Of course the trick is to not stay in that place for too long.
I hope things are moving in a good direction for you. When you do have time to be online, I hope CSL is your first stop! We'll be here!
Lots of Love to you!

At 2:13pm on July 23, 2008, Just call me Implants Barbie Gail said…: Even though I can't compare my situation to yours, I can tell you that a great deal of what you're going through, I am also. My custody situation goes to court September 3rd. And my ex is making the same claims. If you like, feel free to send me an email, and we can talk. I'm here for you, in any way I can be, because I've walked in your shoes, at least a bit of the way.......

xoGailxo

At 12:56am on July 22, 2008, genie said…: Wow, Belinda, that's some story -- you really have been living the perfect storm (of bad news).

Whatever you do, keep fighting for your daughter. Perhaps you and she can live with your parents? That would diffuse your husband's claim that you are too sick to take care of her.

Isn't it amazing how cruel and uncaring some people can be? Oh well, now you have to focus on the folks who are kind and loving, like your daughter and parents.

Let us know how you are doing.

At 11:00pm on July 21, 2008, Tina! said…: Hi Belinda,

Oh my, girlfriend, you have had one year to be sure. Hang tough...you will make it through. Focus on yourself and the love you give and get from your daughter. Focus on life and the goodness it holds. Focus on wellness.

You will find lots of wonderful people here who have lots of wonderful information.

Be well - you are not alone,
Tina

At 6:10pm on July 20, 2008, Tay said…: Welcome to the community! It sounds like you have been through so much, my heart goes out to you. Hang in there, sister. I'm having a hard time myself right now emotionally, but somehow, it will all be ok.

At 11:15pm on July 19, 2008, Betsy said…: Hello Belinda:

Welcome to CSL. There is a lot of helpful information and friendly support here, as Sweetlife has mentioned. Everytime I come to the site there is more to learn and more people to connect with.
Blessings, Betsy

At 9:00am on July 19, 2008, Sweetlife said…: Belinda,
Welcome to CSL! I think you will love it here! You have definately come to the right place to surround yourself with positive energy.

You have really been through it...and I LOVE your quote...it really says it all!

I was born in Brooklyn (Wycoff Ave.) raised in Queens, lived on Long Island for 10 years & now live Upstate by Bear Mountain. How do you like California?

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